Even if you and your spouse/partner don't think of yourselves as "collaborative," a positive Collaborative Divorce outcome is still possible.
The Collaborative Process can be a good option for you if any or all of the following sound good to you:
You want a civilized, respectful and fair resolution of the issues.
Your opinions differ so much that it's hard to imagine that you could reach agreement.
You want to avoid resolving disputes in an acrimonious, adversarial way.
It is important for you to have control over timing and outcome.
You believe that you have a better understanding of what is best for you and your family than a judge who doesn’t know you or your family.
You value an open process that will provide you with all the information that you want and need.
You see the value in getting guidance and support for your emotions, finances, co-parenting and children.
You're willing to consider creative solutions to the issues facing your family.
It is important to have good working co-parenting relationship with your spouse in the future.
It is important for you to minimize conflict with your spouse and model respectful behavior for your children.
You want the well-being and needs of your children to be considered throughout the divorce/separation process as well as in the future.
As long as the couple commits to the Collaborative Process, it is appropriate for:
Legally married couples and unmarried (common-law) couples
Couples who have children and couples without children